"What does it mean to trust someone? What does it mean to trust yourself? Dr. Brené Brown breaks down her world renowned research into a jar of marbles... yes, a jar of marbles. Brené Brown’s SuperSoul Session takes you step by step through the acronym B.R.A.V.I.N.G revealing the anatomy of trust and why it all starts with the small, everyday moments you might be missing."
This is well-worth 25 minutes of your time!
Read more: http://www.oprah.com/own-supersoulsessions/brene-brown-the-anatomy-of-trust-video#ixzz4qX677iIn
Recently, I received an email from a reader of this blog who provided resources that they have found useful in helping parents of children with special needs. I appreciate their generosity in sharing these sites with me, and with their permission, I am sharing them with you. I hope that these resources are helpful to any parent, caregiver, or professional who works with or raises a child with special needs.
1. Understanding Dyslexia and How to Help Children Who Have It
2. The Importance of Self-Esteem for Kids With Learning and Attention Issues
3. Parenting Tips for ADHD: Do’s and Don’ts
4. How to Create an Autism-Friendly Environment for Kids
5. How to Discuss Puberty with Your Child Who Has Special Needs
6. Creating the Optimal Environment for a Kid with ADHD
7. Teens with ADHD: Recognizing Signs of Depression
8. ADHD and Addiction - What is the Risk?
9. Teaching the Person with Autism How to Drive
10. How to Prepare Your Child with Special Needs for the Back-to-School Transition
Mobile health based apps can improve health outcomes and behaviors in children. In a meta-analysis in the Journal of American Medial Association Pediatrics, researchers analyzed 37 studies with almost 30,000 participants, each of which tested the efficacy of a mobile app designed to address a health issue in children such as diabetes, immunizations, asthma, obesity, among others. The apps used different methods and interventions, including providing personalized reminders and information, recording disease symptoms and offering interactive feedback. the researchers found that the apps significantly improved the health behaviors and outcomes in the children and they were particularly effective when caregivers were involved in the intervention.
When you need a favor, there's nothing more convenient than shooting off an email. It saves you the awkwardness of making your plea face-to-face. But, do not expect the same results.
A new study showed that people believe that email requests are just as effective asking in-person. The study, published in the March 2017 issue of the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, told 45 participants that they would have to ask 10 strangers, either in person or via email, to complete a survey with no compensation. Participants in both groups thoughts that one or two people would complete the survey but they were largely incorrect. More than 70% of people approached in person were willing to complete the survey. While only 2% of those asked via email were willing to comply.
What about soliciting a friend of colleague? Face-to-face interaction is still the best method. When a friend or colleague asks you directly and asks for a favor in person, it means they are in serious need and respect you enough to pay you a visit.
Here are some books which discuss welcoming a new sibling to your child and family.
1. Olivia: A Guide to Being a Big Sister by Natalie Shaw
2. Henry is a Big Brother by Alyssa Satin
3. Peter's Chair by Ezra Jack Keats
4. 101 Things To Do With Baby by Jan Ormerod
5. The Berenstain Bears' New Baby by Stan and Jan Berenstain
Sometimes reading a good book helps with everyday issues. When children read, they can be self-reflective without experiencing the anxiety they might feel talking about their own situation. Here are some books for young children on family diversity.
1. The Family Book by Todd Parr
2. And Tango Makes Three by Justin Richardson and Peter Parnell
3. Gloria Goes to Gay Pride by Leslea Newman
The answer may or may not surprise you, but a messy kitchen might, in fact, ruin your diet. We have all been there. A week's worth of dirty plates, cups, and unwashed pots and pans are in the sink, the kitchen table has mail and bills strewn everywhere, and the fruit bowl has fruit that has seen better days. This chaotic environment can be enough to make someone overeat.
According to a recent study published in the journal, Environment and Behavior, the researchers set out to find what impact does a disordered kitchen have on people? We know environmental factors influence behavior and we know the influence of stress on overeating in general, but this particular question of the impact of a messy kitchen had not been studied before.
The researchers set up two kitchens, one was cluttered and noisy and the other was neat and tidy. They then asked 98 female undergraduate participants to complete a writing assignment in one of these two kitchens. The writing prompts varied; some wrote about a time they felt out of control and some wrote about a time when they felt in control. They were provided with unlimited supply of carrots, cookies, and crackers and told they could eat as much as they desired.
Of the participants who wrote about a time when they felt out of control, those in the chaotic kitchen consumed twice as many calories as those in the organized kitchen. Participants who were in the messy kitchen who had thought and written about a time when they were in control, however, ate less. The in-control mindset buffered against the negative impact of the environment.
Actively having and maintaining an in-control mindset might help to offset the demands of life, where work, life demands, children, and a busy schedule can make it hard sometimes to keep the kitchen tidy and organized.
Emotions can be hard to control but adopting some basic techniques can improve your emotional well-being.
1. Be Thankful!
Being grateful for what you have enhances satisfaction.
2. Be Active!
Physical exercise and intellectual engagement usually prevent people from focusing on negative emotions too much. Strain your body once in a while at gym or at a nearby hiking trail, enjoy good food, books, culture, and music. Such endeavors can make it easier to look at the bright side of life.
3. Meet People!
Mingle with people you like. An active social life is an effective means to overcome everyday worries, mild anxieties, and builds your social support.
4. Try new habits!
Changing your routine can help you focus on positive events and avoid boredom. Start a gratitude journal and take note of nice things that happen to you daily. Reserve a few minutes to review these happy times.
I was talking with a friend this evening and she mentioned that had gained some weight since the new year had started, mainly due to a demanding work environment, recent surgery that has prohibited her from working out, and stress. I empathized with her distress and noted that willpower might have something to do with her weight gain.
According to research on the nature of self-control, before you start working on a goal, it's a good idea to understand how willpower really works. Willpower is the ability to resist short-term
temptations in order to meet long-term goals. Using willpower sometimes means not doing something, like skipping that second slice of cake you really want. Willpower can also be about taking positive action, like working out as you had planned, even if you really don't feel like it.
These five truths about willpower will change how you think about and use this inner resource to help meet your goals.
1. Your Willpower is like a piggy bank.
Just like dollars in your bank account, your capacity for self-control is in limited supply. Yes, you read that correctly! Willpower can vary in its strength, not only from person to person, but from moment to moment. Even everyday actions like decision-making or trying to make a good impression can sap this valuable resource, as can coping with the stresses of your career, family, and health issues. When you tax it too much at once, or for too long, the well of self-control strength runs dry. It is in these moments that the doughnut wins.
On any given day, you should budget your willpower so you have it when it counts. If you've spent all your self-control handling stresses at work, you will not have much left at the end of the day for sticking to your resolutions. Think about when you are most likely to feel drained and vulnerable, and make a plan to keep yourself out of harm's way. Be prepared with an alternate activity or a low-calorie snack, whichever applies. For example, if you plan to hit the gym after work, pack a lunch. You may not have the wherewithal to resist pizza for lunch and also work out on your way home.
2. Your willpower is like a muscle.
Willpower is not something that you just have naturally at birth. It is actually like a muscle you can strengthen over time. Setting small, incremental goals that you regularly meet is the best way to boost your willpower.
The other way in which willpower is like a muscle (and the really great news for those of us trying to lose a few pounds) is that it can be made stronger over time, if you give it regular workouts. Recent studies show that daily activities such as exercising, keeping track of your finances or what you are eating, or even just remembering to sit up straight every time you think of it, can strengthen your capacity for self-control. For example, in one study, people who were given free gym memberships and stuck to a daily exercise program for two months not only got physically healthier, but also smoked fewer cigarettes, drank less alcohol, and ate less junk food. They were better able to control their tempers, and less likely to spend money impulsively. They didn't leave their dishes in the sink, didn't put things off until later, and missed fewer appointments. In fact, every aspect of their lives that required the use of willpower improved dramatically.
3. Your feelings affect your willpower.
The connection between your emotions and your ability to turn down a cookie is not obvious, but it’s is definitely there. A hard day at work can limit your ability to meet goals later in the day. It's not just feelings that affect willpower. Anything that involves a lot of thinking and decision-making will make you more vulnerable to temptation later on.
4. You need more than willpower to succeed.
Willpower matters, but you’ll also need other strategies to help you keep on track. By its very nature, willpower is something that comes and goes. And it can be gone when you need it most.
One of the most effective tools you can have is known as “precommitting.” It’s a technique that takes willpower out of the equation. You scrub your environment of temptations you know are likely to test you.
An example of precommitting is getting rid of all your junk food and not buying any more when you are at the grocery store. A shopping list you stick to is another good habit that can supplement your willpower.
5. Willpower is a renewable resource.
Just like everyone else, there will be times your willpower runs out. But the good news is that willpower depletion is only temporary. It is possible to restore your supply. Give your muscle time to bounce back and you'll be back in fighting form and ready to say "no" to any doughnuts that come your way.
Take time out for yourself as a way to rest and recharge your willpower batteries. Most often the most rejuvenating "me time" is unstructured and offers freedom from your everyday routine. Listening to music is another proven way to help restore your willpower. Recent research also shows that you can actually speed up your self-control recovery, simply by thinking about people you know who have a lot of self-control.
Armed with an understanding of how willpower works, and how you can get your hands on some more of it, there's no reason why this can't be the year that you accomplish your goals and aspirations.
Miranda J. Gabriel, Psy.D.
A licensed clinical psychologist providing psychotherapy to children, teens, and adults in the San Francisco Bay Area.
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